For the first time in my life, I tried something at work to control my anger and it seems to be working. In past, I have tried to brush off the feeling of yelling at someone, by just smiling and moving out of the place of conversation immediately (especially long meetings with no immediate or futuristic focus). But that doesn't seem to help me in cases where I'm not able to leave the conversation as soon as I start losing temper or the other person goes on probing me to respond. So, this time I tried something different, thanks to the frequent dose of advice from my near and dear ones. I sat down to think and sought the other person's perspective.
In this particular instance, I called the annoying co-worker and asked him to suggest a better way of doing things than what I'm doing right now. Believe me! its hard to control one's anger but its harder to let go of one's ego. I did well, considering it was my first attempt :) He listened to me for a while, after the usual show-offs he said he'll think about it and get back to me.I thought its just another little excuse, because he wouldn't have expected me to seek inputs from him and was trying to play safe.
After two days he came back and trust me the work he had done on the particular subject was worth appreciation and he gave some valuable inputs for improvement. Now I'm not gonna say that it ended as a fairy tale where "we became friends and worked next to each other happily ever-after", but I could see that his feedback on the subject was really a sincere one and I'm sure I would have regretted if I had missed the things pointed out by him.
Now that "Anger management" is really something which I'm working on currently, any help, your own experiences or a practical approach to control one's temperament are most welcome!
"It takes 43 muscles to frown and only 17 to smile, but it doesn't take even a single one to just sit there and look dumb ;)"
Cool da.. i am going to try this the next time :)
ReplyDelete@pradeepa: Good! and do let me know how it went;)
ReplyDeleteGood job Jency... But I am really surprised that you ever get angry. I thought that you would always be cool.
ReplyDeleteIt is really very very frustrating when others blame our work and it really takes a huge amount of maturity to ask 'Okay, please let me know how could I have done better'. Good point!
@amudhan: he he he! ennoda innoru mogatha neenga paathadhilla...(padayappa dialogue)
ReplyDeletetry the trick! hope it works for u too..
First of all it's surprising that you get angry.
ReplyDeleteIMO, the more you are conscious of anger management, the more you will get angry. Just don't bother about it.
Try your best to see from his/her point of view. If you still feel the other person is not right and the issue is worthy, exercise your 43 muscles and show them how powerful your throat/fist is.
@rohini: ROFL,thats the best piece of advice i got from anyone reg. getting angry!
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